If your wife wants a divorce it can turn your whole world upside down. Most people don’t get married and think they will be divorced a few years later. Rather, most people get married and think that they are set for life and that dating and new relationships aren’t something they have to consider anymore. So if your wife tells you that she wants a divorce, it can shatter everything you thought you knew about your life and what you thought it would look like. If you really still love your wife and want to get her interested in you again, here are two steps that can help.

The first step to get your wife interested again, is to quickly analyze the situation. This means you need to think about what her reasons are for wanting the divorce or separation in the first place. Don’t dwell on this step. Instead, you are looking for all of the things that you can think of that are good reasons why she wants to leave. Even if you don’t agree with them, you need to accept that it is how she feels and that she needs to be validated.

The second step you need to take when your wife wants a divorce is to agree with her reasons. This is why step one is important. Many couples run into problems at this stage because they can’t acknowledge each other’s feelings. Even if your wife doesn’t see the situation the same way you do, you need to be the bigger person and try to see her side. This will get your wife interested in you again because it will be a switch that she isn’t expecting. How you handle a separation or divorce threat will greatly determine the outcome. If you handle it maturely and without drama, she will start to think twice about leaving. This is even more effective if it is not how the two of you would normally handle problems. So if you tend to argue or fight a lot, agreeing with her will show her that things can change, which may be all she needs to give the marriage another chance.