My wife has lost her feelings for me isn’t something you ever want to hear yourself saying. Even though we’re all well aware of the staggering divorce rates, we still get married with the intention of being with our spouse forever. When you learn that your wife doesn’t feel as invested in the marriage anymore or her feelings for you have drastically changed, it’s a tough thing to absorb. Naturally you imagine that with her announcement will come divorce papers and a future without her. That doesn’t have to be the case at all. If you love your wife and you want the marriage to thrive, you have to take matters into your own hands. You can get your wife to feel emotionally connected to you again and get her to absolutely adore you. You just need to know how to make that a reality.
Once you realize that your wife has lost her feelings for you, you may be inclined to tell her that it’s just a passing phase she’s going through. In virtually every case where a wife feels a strong emotional disconnect with her husband it has nothing to do with it being a temporary thing. It’s a symptom of a real problem within the marriage. She doesn’t feel as close to you anymore and you need to determine why that is. The easiest way to do that is to ask her what has changed for her. Be prepared to hear her tell you some very honest things about what has caused her to feel the distance she now feels. Listen intently to what she shares as you’re going to use that information to fix the problem and pull her back to you.
Often the reason a woman loses her feelings for her husband is he stops sharing what he’s feeling with her. He no longer goes out of his way to make her feel the love and adoration she did in the early days of their relationship. If you believe that’s contributing to what she’s feeling now you have to take drastic steps to change that. You need to make your marriage your number one priority and start working on getting your wife to feel close to you again.
Tell your wife what she means to you. Don’t hold anything back. Explain how lost you would be without her and how deeply you cherish her as your life partner. Apologize for any of your behavior that may have hurt her or unintentionally pushed her away. Make it clear to her that you will do anything to make her happy again and mean it. Your wife has to see that this is all coming from a place of genuine adoration within your heart. If she senses that you truly do love her more than anything, she’ll start to let down the emotional walls she’s built around herself.
