You may be surprised to learn that this is actually quite a common question among married men. Over time a marriage that was once filled with kindness and compassion can turn into something ugly and strained. If you feel that your wife is always taking her anger or frustration out on you, that’s not good. It undermines the connection you have with her and it threatens your relationship. Dealing with a woman who acts this way can be challenging. You have to approach her from a certain emotional place to get her to see that what she’s doing isn’t acceptable.

There may be several reasons behind why your wife seems to always be mad at you. The old saying that we take our frustrations out on the people closest to us rings true. Your wife may be feeling dissatisfied with her life in general and that has lead her to become moody and unbearable. Think about what’s going on in her life presently. Does she have a very stressful job? Is she embroiled in the middle of a conflict with a friend or family member? Or has she been complaining that she isn’t happy with herself? Anything like this can translate into her being angry with you. Since you’re the person who is right there and she knows that you’ll tolerate it without leaving her, you are forced to accept her temper tantrums.

Talk to your wife about what is bothering her. She may lash out at you initially but continue to ask in very subtle ways. Talk about your day and encourage her to talk about hers. When she does start to open up a little about what the root problem is, really listen to her. Offer your own suggestions as to how she can deal with what she’s feeling and encourage her to continue talking it over with you. Sometimes all a wife truly wants is to find an ally in her spouse.

You also must adopt the idea of smothering her with kindness. If you try and accept that your wife doesn’t mean the rude things she says to you, it will help you to emotionally detach from the situation. Each day do something kind for her. Show her that regardless of how moody she is, you still feel grateful to be her life partner. Doing this can actually transform the entire dynamic of a marriage. It can help your wife break down the emotional walls she has built around herself. Once that happens all that misplaced anger will turn into acceptance and love again.