Have you done everything that you can think of to try to get your wife back? Do you wish that you knew what to say to get her to come home? Has any attempt to get your wife back only been met with failure and disaster? Although you might feel completely hopeless at the moment it is actually very easy to convince your wife to come home and end your breakup.
Most guys try the typical tactics to get their wife to agree to give their marriage a second chance. They might ask to go to counseling or agree to change anything and everything if their wife would only give their marriage another chance. Unfortunately, these methods rarely convince a wayward wife to return to the marriage and in all likelihood they actually make you appear weak and needy. Think about it. If you are willing to compromise on too much you are going to appear weak and not desirable at all.
Agree – It might be difficult to convince yourself to agree to the separation but at least to her face you should try to agree that this move is a good thing. Let your wife know that you really weren’t happy with how things were going either and that the way the two of you were living was stressful and unpleasant at times.
By agreeing with her you will remove the force that you may have been putting on her to get back together. Nobody likes to feel pressure to do anything and pressure to stay in a relationship where one or both parties are unhappy is unpleasant for everyone involved. By agreeing that the separation is a good thing she will find herself without one huge bone of contention that she might have been using to keep from talking with you.
Talking – Most guys think that their first priority should be to talk through all the problems in the marriage with their wife and that this will lead their wife to coming back. They believe that this will fix the marriage. In all honesty, nobody likes to talk about problems and right now your wife doesn’t even want the relationship so why would she want to talk about problems in a relationship that she wants no part of?
It is much more important to rebuild the relationship from the ground up and then deal with the problems that you may have had that both of you feel led to the breakup of your marriage. Once that connection and at least some sort of friendliness has been restored then bit by bit you can deal with the problems. Does this make logical sense to you?
Avoid talking about the breakup and instead focus on your wife for a change. A friendly phone call just to say hello or a friendly conversation when you see each other can make all the difference in the world when it comes to creating attraction and making your wife see you as a desirable man once again instead of the pain that just wants her to come home.
Of course, communication is key in any aspect of your marriage and while it may be important to know what you want to say to your wife it is much more important to know how to say it. Women can be very sensitive and right now your wife is probably a bit skeptical of you and your intentions. Try to make her feel at ease and think about how you can say what you want to say without accusing or making her feel that all of this is her fault. Nobody want to have their faults pointed out and it is much more effective to allow her to discover the ways in which she contributed to the downfall of your relationship and realize that she is throwing away a perfectly good marriage. And of course, once she realizes that she did contribute to the breakup she will be more apt to want you, your marriage and to come back to you.
