Cheating wife stories are on the rise more and more these days. Many people assume most women choose to suffer in silence when their husbands aren’t giving them what they need. Truthfully speaking, however, many women have confessed to “creeping” just to get their needs met when nothing else seems to be working.

Remember TLC’s major hit “Creep” where the trio sings about cheating on their neglectful men, who are unaware? They said “He doesn’t know what I do… and no attention goes to show”. While I hate to generalize, most women have expressed emotional dissatisfaction as a reason for their infidelities. Yes, studies have shown this is a large reason why men cheat too, but this is about us ladies right now, so sit back and listen up.

Lack of attention and interest in a marriage is a general side effect of getting used to one another. You’re predictable, routine and have even let your bad habits and funky moments become a more common occurrence with one another. This also disturbs the magic of feeling special around one another because it can seem like you’re “letting yourself go”.

Additionally, less conversation and intimacy can also fall to the side when you’re both in a routine, especially if there are children and bills and business to handle. While cheating doesn’t make things right, and it surely isn’t the best way to cope, some women are unsure of how to ask to get their needs met, and may stoop to an affair in order to feel fulfilled and whole again.

Here are just 3 of many common reasons why a cheating wife may feel neglected by her husband. Are you guilty of any of these things?

• Lack of sincerity in affectionate words and actions. When you tell her you love her, do you mean it at that moment? Or is this just an automatic blurb in your speech? Are you tired and truly disinterested in her, so you “oh” and “ok” your way through conversations? This is more than enough for a woman to feel as if you don’t care, and it’s a gateway to allowing another man to extend his care, and capture her emotional attention.
• No attention given to developing intimacy. If you’re tired and stressed after a long day, your wife may not understand why you don’t want to talk. If you’re just busy and tired almost all the time, she knows you prefer to be in front of the television, but she might feel as if you’re driven to ignore her and would rather she left you alone… completely alone. Thus, she’ll look for a man who wants to share his thoughts and listen, especially when you’re not receptive.
• Giving more attention to his children than to his wife. Your children are and will always be a priority, but when you’re married you cannot forget about your spouse either. Making time to connect is important – throughout all the snotty noses, boo-boos and demands children can have, your wife is in the trenches with you, so when you can’t give her two minutes, she’ll be pressed to get it from someone else whose mind doesn’t even touch near her “daily priorities”.

If these emotionally-based reasons are why your wife is cheating – or possibly thinking about cheating – then consider yourself lucky. These are just red flags that your marriage is in need of critical attention. You can prevent your wife from cheating by making time to learn ways to reconnect with her, as well as look for things that can help revive the passion in your marriage. Depending on how strongly you feel, you can even confront her – even if angrily, to let her know that you are NOT going anywhere and that you are determined to make your marriage work.