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I often hear from wives who want my advice on how to heal after their husband cheated. Occasionally though, I hear from mistresses or women who are cheating with another woman’s husband. These woman often want my opinion or advice about the husband and want to know how to keep him involved in the affair. (I don’t offer this advice, of course.) But, one question that I get with a great deal of frequency is something like: “Why do men return to their wives after an affair? I know I made him happy and I know that he likes being with me more than her. So, why did he go back to his wife when we were so happy together?” I have theories as to the reason why husbands eventually come to their senses and return home. I’ll share them with you in the following article.

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A good friend of mine called me awhile back and was pretty upset. “My wife told me she hates me and she wants a divorce,” he said. “How can I save my marriage?” It was sad to hear because I am friends with both of them and hated to learn that they were having problems. We talked for about an hour and I shared with him what I had experienced when my own marriage nearly ended and the incredible secret I learned that would change everything.

Don’t spend a lot of time worrying about your wife telling you she “hates” you. It is an emotional reaction based on her unhappiness in the marriage. Many spouses have made similar statements out of sheer frustration. I do not in any way want to leave you with the impression that this is not a serious matter! Any time things have reached the point … Read more

If you have just separated from your wife, there is a good chance that things are not going to be resolved any time soon. For her to take a drastic step like that means that she has obviously agonized over the decision and is taking it very seriously. After all, there is a lot on the line.

That’s why you aren’t likely to smooth things over with a bouquet of flowers or some smooth talking spiel. Unless she is bluffing, such tactics are doomed to failure. It is a little more serious than that.

Okay, so what about talking? Well, that might work if you can discuss things as two rational adults that stand to lose a lot if the marriage dissolves. However, what you don’t want to do is make things worse by looking desperate. If your big plan simply involves begging her to come back, you are throwing … Read more

I am married to a man whom I sometimes refer to as “My Diva Man.” He is a person who likes things a certain way. He can be quite demanding at times. However, he is also a wonderful husband who works very hard so that I can be home with our two beautiful daughters every day.

Unfortunately, this stubborn wife sometimes forgets that and stomps her foot and refuses to give in to him and what he needs.

Let me share an example that happened recently…

We just started doing the South Beach Diet together. So, I need to make his lunch more often than I used to…now it’s every day.

The other day, I could not find a container large enough to hold what I made AND small enough to fit in his lunch box without having to be at an angle. Well, I didn’t think twice, I just … Read more

Recently separated with your wife and trying to get her to call you back? If you have been leaving messages for your wife and she won’t return your phone calls, I would like to offer you a technique that literally works like magic. It’s very simple, it’s not sneaky or manipulative, and it will arouse her curiosity. Ladies, feel free to use this one as well.

First off, I want to briefly discuss the typical phone calls that are made after people break up. These techniques don’t usually work very well, and if you’ve been guilty of these, please stop:

• “Please, please, please call me back!!”- Where you plead with your husband or wife to return your call. This is a desperation ploy, it surrenders all power to them, and it makes you look weak and pathetic. And above all, it doesn’t work!
• “I really need you to call me.